10 Things You Should Not Do When Initiating a Divorce Case
If you have an impending case in the New Hampshire family court system, the first step that you need to take is to hire an experienced and professional New Hampshire family attorney. While you will certainly find plenty of information regarding what you should do during the course of your litigation, we would like to present our list of ten things you should not do when presented with this scenario.
1. Do not destroy any of your records, including electronic information, like emails. In New Hampshire and across the country, website postings and emails are becoming increasingly important in cases of divorce litigation. Whether it is harmful or beneficial, this information should not be destroyed. It could potentially create trouble in front of a family court judge. If you believe that you should destroy certain information, you should first consult with your New Hampshire family court lawyer.
2. Do not spirit your children away. If one party in a divorce proceeding decides to spirit their children away and hide them from the other parental party, then this is going to considerably mar their chances of receiving a fair settlement in court. One of the primary concerns of New Hampshire family court judges is that parents work cooperatively with one another in the best interest of their children.
3. As tempting as it might be, do not clean out your joint bank accounts. In the best interests of any children involved in the case, both parents are going to require access to monetary funds to pay their bills. However, if one parent begins seizing assets, the judge will often penalize that parent, and he or she will not be viewed favorably in a court of law.
4. Empty or not, do not make threats towards your former spouse. This is only going to lead to further conflict during your proceedings, and if any children are involved, then they will be the ones to suffer. Reasonableness and compromise are not promoted by threats and anger. Fighting is only going to cost both parties more money.
5. Do not engage the services of your town’s “meanest” lawyer. All this is going to do is reduce the value of your community estate and require more monetary funds. One might succeed in making their former spouse miserable, but cooperating peacefully is going to lead to a better settlement for both parties. The New Hampshire family law attorney that you choose to hire should be professional, experienced, and courteous.
6. Do not make an attempt to represent yourself. In response to a myriad of problems, the existing face of the New Hampshire family court system is rapidly changing. Law is a complicated practice. You will make mistakes, and when you do have to eventually hire the services of a New Hampshire law attorney, it is only going to cost you more money. By engaging the services of a competent lawyer, you will be sparing yourself a major headache.
7. Do not attempt to deceive your lawyer. Even if you believe particular facts are embarrassing, do not attempt to deceive your lawyer by lying. Lies almost always come around to bite you in the behind, and if your spouse’s representation were to discover that you lied about certain aspects of your case, this can be used as ammunition against you in a court of law.
8. Do not lie to the family court judge. While this might seem like a commonsense piece of advice, you would be surprised at the number of times we have seen it attempted in a court of law. Lying to a judge is a much worse offense than lying to a court official or your attorney. If your untruths are uncovered, then you could be facing potential criminal liability charges.
9. Do not try to turn your children against their other parent. Whatever you do, do not place your children in the middle of a dispute with your spouse. It is a sad reality that children are often used as pawns in the middle of divorce and custody proceedings. Most importantly, it only harms your children.
Once again, much of this advice would seem as though it was common sense, but we often see clients attempt to do these things. Even the best lawyer in the world will be unable to procure the settlement you seek if you make their job difficult. For the sake of your family and yourself, conduct yourself professionally when it comes to dealing with a New Hampshire family law court.